Zoom Autism Magazine Issue 1 Fall 2014 - Page 11

granted. Every milestone met, no matter what the timing, will be cause for celebration. Every baby step will be a quantum leap. You will find the people who understand that. You will revel in their support and love and shared excitement. You will encounter people who care for your child in ways that restore your faith in humanity. You will cherish the teachers and therapists and caregivers who see past your child’s challenges and who truly understand her strengths. They will feel like family. You will examine and re-examine every one of your own insecurities. You will recognize some of your child’s challenges as your own. You will get to know yourself as you get to know your child. You will look to the tools you have used to mitigate your own challenges. You will share them. You will both be better for it. You will come to understand that there are gifts in all of this: tolerance, compassion, understanding—precious, life-altering gifts. You will worry about your other children. You will feel like you’re not giving them enough time. You will find the time. Yes, you will. You will discover that the time that means something to them is not big. It’s not a trip to the circus. It doesn’t involve planning. It’s free. You will forget the dog and pony shows. Instead, you will find fifteen minutes before bed. You will close the door. You will sit on the floor. You’ll play Barbies with your daughter or Legos with your son. You’ll talk. You’ll listen. You’ll listen some more. You’ll start to believe that they’ll be OK. And they will. “You will think you can’t handle it. You will be wrong.” Zoom Autism Through Many Lenses 11