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Enemies under
the same roof
“W
e despised each other.
We couldn’t talk to
one another because
whenever we did, it would turn into a
heated argument and physical fights.
I’d never hated anyone as much as I
hated her…
I couldn’t stand my sister. We couldn’t
be in the same place for too long or
all hell would break loose. We didn’t
interact with each other at all. When
it was time to have dinner, we’d both
collect our food and part ways. To me
she was like a stranger living in the
same house, rather than a member of
the family.
Because of our behaviour towards
each other, we caused a lot of stress
for my parents and division in the
family. It was bad for my mum to have
to see her two daughters fighting
to such an extent, but I didn’t see
it as a problem. I personally didn’t
like girls even though I had female
friends, but I didn’t trust them and so
I couldn’t stand my sister either. Trust
and keeping grudges was a
big issue for me and I even
carved ‘I hate my family’ on
my bedroom wall and door.
But I couldn’t stay this way
and God didn’t allow it either
because as I learnt more
about Him at the UCKG
HelpCentre, He opened my
blind eyes to the reality of how bad
things were. Families weren’t meant to
be broken. I was supposed to love my
sister. Love was a word that was so
foreign to me. When I understood this,
my mentality completely changed. I
had to reunite with my sister. It wasn’t
going to be easy, considering the
number of years that I’d hated her. But
now that I knew the truth, it was up
to me to show her that I was serious
about being a real sister to her.
I prayed to God asking Him to change
not only her, but me as well, for I’d
been equally as bad. I put my trust
in God through the Campaign of
Israel, believing that He could heal all
that was broken in our relationship
and character. I was determined and
used my faith to overcome situations
with my sister, even when it got
harder. Patience, determination and
perseverance were key. It paid off!
My sister and I are like twins now. I
told her that I love her! As awkward
as that was for me to say, we are able
to say things to each that we would
never have done before. I’m actually
And I’m actually
proud to say
that I have an
older sister.
proud to say that I have an older
sister. My parents no longer have to
worry about us getting along; in fact,
we’re planning to go on holiday alone
together. We have deep conversations
now and we talk and give each other
advice. We share our possessions now
and help one another out. We are, to
this day, learning things about one
another be