CONQUER YOURSELF
ILLUSIONS OF PERFECTION
Some people , even after insignificant failures , find themselves feeling unworthy and inferior . Beliefs of not being good enough are due to them having a false mental image of perfection . If you are a perfectionist , you may be susceptible to feeling this way .
It is helpful to remember that perfection is just an illusion . Anyone who aims for absolute perfection is bound to fall short of their own unrealistic expectations .
There is always room for improvement because nothing is completely perfect .
When you fail , the image that you perceived in your subconscious mind about your perfect self is broken . Your ego , the Carnal Self , is hurt . In order to avoid unwanted questions , the ego forces you to declare , ‘ I am unworthy .’
Your failures will push you to feel inferior , but you need to accept that you are not inferior just because you failed . Rather , find out why you failed and rectify the mistake that caused you to fail .
SUPERIORITY AND INFERIORITY COMPLEXES
Neither an inferiority complex nor a superiority complex is good . You should stay in the middle . Both complexes will make you blind .
– His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi
BUILDING CONFIDENCE
Being self-aware will enable you to indubitably know your abilities . Once you are certain about your own calibre , you will be confident and ready to take up any challenge . Then , your image of yourself will not be influenced by anyone ’ s perception of you or your own delusions of grandeur . Your character should be in the palm of your hand .
Self-awareness will help you build confidence . Once you know what your strengths are , you can further develop them by setting challenges for yourself . Give yourself a target to achieve in the next week , the next month and the next year . When you accomplish your goals , your confidence will grow .
How do you stay in the middle of the two complexes ?
• Do not curse yourself or blame your misfortune for your failures .
• Stay grounded . Know that if you are successful , it is not because you are great but because you made the right decisions .
If you fail at anything or find yourself surrounded by calamities , it is not because of your fate ; rather it is because of the poor decisions you made in life . Similarly , when you succeed , you should know it is due to the policies and different techniques that you worked in perfect coordination with your actions that made you successful . Do not allow yourself to be under the impression that it is because you yourself are a superior human being .
RELATIONSHIPS
It is very likely that the way you perceive yourself and others is negatively affecting your relationships with those around you . In your mind , you may have painted a perfect picture of yourself because you are not aware of your weaknesses . However , others are , and to them your picture is not so perfect .
When you know your true picture and make necessary changes to subtract the negativity from your character , you will become a good person not just to your perception , but to others ’ observation .
A good way to preserve positive relationships with others is to keep a check and balance of your own self before finding faults in people . Sometimes , emotional or behavioural issues are symptoms of our own deeply rooted emotional and psychological problems .
MESSIAH HERALD / ISSUE 02 / MAR 2017 15