Stop Suffering ISSUE020 | Page 15

LOVE THERAPY What did I do to lose his love? “I still remember the desperation I felt when I came home to find my now ex-husband surrounded by suitcases. “I just don’t love you anymore,” was his reason for leaving me. I was stunned. Divorced, lonely and humiliated — that was me. What was a 24-year- old woman to do? As I lay on my cold, double bed alone, I spent nights hugging my pillow, wondering where I went wrong? I tried to find reasons, but nothing made sense. What could I possibly have done to lose his love? My pillowcase knew my tears all too well. I fought tooth and nail to win him back, until the penny finally dropped: I deserved better. Today, my tears of sadness are now tears of happiness. I have been happily married to my husband for six years now. Every anniversary that passes is a reminder of the day my sorrow turned to joy, and every tear that I had once cried in pain has finally been forgotten.” Sherene Changoo 6 signs that your love life needs your attention If you have not and are not experiencing any of these signs, you might know someone who is: • A series of failed relationships, ending one and beginning another; • You or your partner are complacent in your marriage, not making efforts to solve problems or better the relationship; • Begging for the attention of the person you love; • Accepting abuse for fear of being alone; • You have traumas and inner wounds that hold you back from believing in love; • Because you have not loved someone or you have been rejected by others, you think you will always be alone. Take this opportunity to reflect on how you have been treating yourself. What have you done to face your problems and heal the wounds that are inside of you and that make you commit the same mistakes over and over again? It is time to take care of you. After all, love is more than a feeling, it’s a decision. Decide to be happy! Thursdays at 7pm - 2420 Dufferin St. Toronto STOP SUFFERING|15