to deal with it all. There will be lots of pain
and grieving and it’s easy to point the
finger but there is never a winner so why
make it harder for your former partner and
yourself? Of course your natural reaction
might be to make it harder for them if
they are the perpetrator but all that will
do is make it more painful and prolong
everything.
Keeping your dignity helps to stop the
rumours and whispers. People will see
that you have self-respect and that you
Maintaining
your dignity
is the best
way to deal
with it all
are in control. Of course you want to
scream out loud and it might make you
feel better at the time but stay calm and
move on to the next stage.
by your partner, surely you don’t want
your children’s love to change towards
them – or to make them feel like they
need to take sides.
Bewildered and not knowing where to
turn is hard so having a good solicitor
who can help you through the legal side
of things as well as lending a sympathetic
ear is imperative.
When children are older and dignity has
remained they will love you for it there and
then. When they are younger, we have to
protect them and from harm and the hurt
life can bring. It’s not always easy being
a parent – children can hurt you, it’s what
they do sometimes but it shouldn’t be the
other way round.
Keeping your dignity will help with sorting
things out more quickly. Trying to keep
communication open with your former
partner will also hopefully keep the cost of
the divorce down.
It does not really matter what you may
want your partner to have or not have –
they will get what they’re entitled to, so
without being a pushover, try and come
to some helpful agreement. It’s always
easier for the other side to say yes when
you’re being helpful and not shouting the
odds.
If there are any children involved it’s even
more important to keep your 6V