Dignity
&
Divorce
Divorce, it’s the word you
hope will never mean anything
to you. After all, why should
it? You’ve fallen in love and
want to be with your partner
for the rest of your life…the
dream wedding where friends
and relatives gather, maybe
church bells are ringing and
champagne is flowing –
husband and wife at the start
of a wonderful future together,
which is how it stays for many
couples.
The excitement perhaps of buying a
home and filling it with children, then the
years pass by and all of a sudden and all
seems well until out of the blue, one of
you decides you have had enough and
it’s not the life you want anymore. Or, it
could be that one of you meets someone
else and of course, you don’t mean to
happen – you’re not even looking, why
would you – but these things happen.
Perhaps you have grown apart and your
partner wants to move on – whatever the
reason, it’s going to happen and there is
nothing much you can do about it. How
can two once inseparable people come
to this?
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The anger and resentment can then start
and your mind starts working overtime
and you might begin to wonder what
you do did wrong. So, you feel you did
nothing wrong and you’re feeling your
partner got off lightly and before you
know it, the love for your partner turns to
hate and that’s when everything can turn
nasty.
So, what is the best way to sort it? First
and foremost you want to keep the
children happy and protect them from
all the personal disagreements you are
bound to have. After all, it is not their
fault and just because you don’t love
each other any more you must make
sure that the children know that your love
for them has not changed. Obviously,
you will try and make sure you keep
them away from it all and tell them that
everything is all right but, for a while at
least, their lives will change as well as
your own.
Age is irrelevant, the children will suffer
to some degree and so will you. Don’t
think your partner will get away with the
awful hurt that comes with it all because
they won’t.
Friends and family will be divided and
they will take their sides and all sit back
and watch it unwind.
Maintaining your dignity is the best way