Potential Magazine Summer 2016 | Page 8

happy + healthy dating violence EMPOWERING TEENS AGAINST ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS 1 IN 10 HIGH SCHOOL TEENS ARE VICTIMS OF DATING VIOLENCE 3X GIRLS ARE MORE LIKELY TO BE VICTIMS OF DATING VIOLENCE WHO IS AT RISK? Teens who have seen violent and abusive relationships at home are most at risk to become victims themselves. Sue Jones, Executive Director of FOCUS says, “As teens develop emotionally, they are heavily influenced by experiences in their relationships. Healthy relationship behaviors can have a positive effect on a teen’s emotional development. Unhealthy, abusive, or violent relationships can have severe consequences and short- and long-term negative effects on a developing teen.” In short, parents have a responsibility to make certain that they are modeling healthy relationships at home, as “being exposed to relationship violence as a child is linked with dating violence.” “Communicating with your date, managing uncomfortable emotions like anger and jealousy, and treating others with respect are a few ways to keep relationships healthy and nonviolent,” Ms. Jones said. “Teens receive messages about how to behave in relationships from peers, adults in their lives, and the media. All too often these examples suggest that violence in a relationship is normal, but violence is WARNING SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP • Suspicious bruises or other injuries • Failing grades • Loss of interest in activities or hobbies that they once enjoyed • Excusing their dating partner’s behavior • Needing to respond immediately to calls or texts from their partner • Fearfulness around their partner • Having a dating partner who is significantly (three or more years) older than the teen is a risk factor for experiencing forced sex • Insulting their partner • Trying to control how their partner dresses and acts • Constantly texting or sending instant messages (IMs) to monitor their partner • Losing their temper and being unable to control their anger • Threatening to hurt themselves or their partner in the case of a break-up never acceptable.” — Sue C. Jones, B.S, M.Ed., FOCUS Executive Director. 8 | Summer 2016 ONLY 1 IN 3 VICTIMS TELL ANYONE ABOUT THEIR ABUSE www.potentialmagazine.com