Potential Magazine October 2013 | Page 16

py+healthy life skills llege 101 life skills life skills tips & advice trends parent to parent talking to teachers resources scholarships GET TALKING! Sometimes opportunities are missed, questions go unanswered and conflicts stay unresolved simply because teens are hesitant to approach their teachers or professors and ask for help on a topic or to get clarification on a grade or assignment. It’s never too early to teach your child to be responsible for themselves, and speaking up when necessary and solving their own problems are valuable life skills. Here are three ways you can get them to start communicating with their teachers. By Jasmine York MAKE THEM AWARE. Sometimes students are too proud and choose not to ask for help because they want to figure it out by themselves. Help your child figure out if and when it’s necessary to ask for additional help. Encourage your child to seek help if they just can’t grasp the material or continue to misunderstand a lecture or a concept. after class to make these kinds of inquiries though. ROLE PLAYING. Many teens feel embarrassed about asking their teacher for help in front of others. If your child gets shy about raising his or her hand around their classmates, suggest that they write down their questions POPPING THE and ask their teacher in private. Try role-playing QUESTION. with your teen to build up Some students don’t Help your teen learn how to their confidence. The more realize that most get to the point. They need to prepared your teen is, the teachers are more be clear and concise with their more comfortable they will than willing to extend request or question so feel about speaking up. additional help, if nobody’s time is wasted. By training them to talk to needed. Teachers may authority figures and solve offer extra credit, accept their own problems, you’re a late assignment (some helping your teens grow up to be independent credit is better than no credit), or even offer and responsible adults. They’re more able to tutoring services. Asking questions is the only reach their potential if they learn to use their way to find out what each teacher will do in own voice to get what they want out of life. each instance. It’s best to wait until before or A LESSON TO LEARN 16 www.potentialmagazine.com THE GOLDEN RULES Always tell the truth. If your teen has missed an assignment deadline and is asking for a make-up, outlandish excuses won’t win them any points. Remind them to just be honest and ask for what they want, respectfully. Be prepared to do the work. If they ask for extra credit, they need to be ready when they get it to, first, say “thank you” and second, get moving on earning those extra