More to Death Edition3 2014 | Page 57

The Baby Grove There’s a special kind of calm in this part of Boduan Sanctuary wood. Sheltered by trees yet open to the light of the sun, you can hear the whispering of the wind without being buffeted by it. Sitting on a hand-made oak bench, it feels as though you’re being embraced by the wood, soothed and centred in a place of peace. And this is a very special place, a memorial garden for people who mourn that most devastating loss, the death of a baby. The Baby Grove was created so that families can have a beautiful place to bury their babies, a place where they can remember the precious life lost and not feel so totally alone in overwhelming grief. Because even when there’s no other human around, the spirit of the wood comforts mourners, reminding us in birdsong of the joy that Nature can still bring, helping us to come to terms with the cruelty of unexpected loss. the spirit of the woods comforts mourners Here we become aware of the full circle of life: through death to fresh new life. The yearly cycle from the dark depth of winter to the bright colours of spring, from the summer spread of green leaves overhead and ferns underfoot to the golden patina of autumn, the constant change in the wood mirrors the slower cycles of our own lives.