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6 Noticing when we’re too stressed Stress can alert us to potential dangers and spur us on to achieve a goal. However, sometimes the balance tips too far and the pressure becomes so intense or persistent that we may feel unable to cope. As soon as we notice it getting too much, it’s helpful to talk about how we feel rather than hoping the stress will go away. 7 “Sometimes stress and tiredness take their toll. One night we had a fight about nothing. At the time I didn’t know what to do or where I could go for help. That’s how it feels when we’re under stress.” 7 Making difficult decisions There will be points when we are faced with a particularly emotional or difficult decision. Sometimes it’s a decision we have planned for, or at least held at the back of our minds. Sometimes it’s completely unexpected and leaves us feeling out of control. Where we can, thinking about decisions in advance can help us keep a cool head when it comes to the crunch. “It’s better to be prepared and to do some research about different options, even if you’re not sure what route you’ll go down. I couldn’t have selected the right care home whilst mum was in hospital, in the middle of that stressful time.” Looking after someone carersuk.org