BUSINESS detachment from what I thought love was and just stepping into letting love be love .
Dr . Shellie : So let ’ s talk sisterhood . What does sisterhood mean to you ?
Cross : Sisterhood : to me , is demonstration . I think people get sisterhood and friendship mixed up . If I consider someone my sister , I know she supports me , I can count on her for the very best advice , encouragement , and even criticism — she ’ s not going to ‘ yes ’ me . She may not show up at the book signing , but she purchased 20 books . How is my action showing you that I ’ m there for you and I have your back ? I think it ’ s separate from friendship because sisterhood is more spiritual , I should be able to tap into you and know something ’ s not right . With friendship , it ’ s “ Oh , maybe you need to do this or that ,” with sisterhood it ’ s “ Let ’ s go get a drink and talk about it , or let ’ s go do whatever it is you need to do . I ’ m not going to judge you .” things , I became very protective of my children and my heart . So once again , I went to my vision boards , and I created a love board . I surrounded that love board with , “ Alright Lucinda ; it ’ s okay to be loved , step into new relationships and conversations without thinking about the past .” It took a year or so , but after that year of soul-searching and reminding myself that my previous messed-up relationship wasn ’ t going to define me , I ran into the love of my life . I walked into that relationship open because I dropped the Lucinda from that past relationship .
Dating was hard , it was frustrating , because you run into knuckleheads , but ladies just need to stay focused and just have fun . Ask yourself , “ Why am I attaching love to something ?” I don ’ t have to think about his life and meet his mother — and that ’ s okay ! It took a
Dr . Shellie : Explain high vibration to our readers , please .
Cross : When I think of high vibrations … it ’ s when you are tapped into what ’ s going on , you ’ re extremely aware , you ’ re present in the moment , and you ’ re using your energy , not allowing the energy to use you . For me , as a high vibrational woman , my feelers are out and I ’ m tapped into what ’ s going on around me , but at the same time , I ’ m in control of not being in control .
Dr . Shellie : What does that mean ?
Cross : I ’ m in control , meaning that I can control my actions ; if things are chaotic , it can still be controlled chaos , and I ’ m not going to fall into it . Even though you feel that you ’ re in control , you ’ re willing to say that things do still happen . I love this phrase , “ You can only define failure .” No one else can define it for you .
Dr . Shellie : On the flip side , you must personally define “ success ” as well . It really has to come from you .
Cross : Yes , and remember that even if it ’ s all going crazy , it ’ s still going to work out ! n
Samantha Barna is the social media coordinator for Inspiring Lives Magazine and the Global Sisterhood , an IUP fashion / history student , and a lover of vintage clothing , writing , and the past .
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