N
ow, you are an adult and you are married.
But what you probably don’t know is that the
same child is still there inside you. What does
this mean for your marriage?
If you’re a man: Your wife happens to be upset or
stressed out about something. She comes over to
speak about something that’s on her mind, expecting
to find a shoulder to lean on. What do you give her
instead? The same treatment you got from your
parents as a child. And worse: you accuse her of
being weak.
FINDING THE
RIGHT PERSON
If you’re a woman: Your husband comes home stressed
out or angry. You want to help him, so you offer the
same treatment you would receive as a child: “Honey,
what happened? Is something wrong? Talk to me!” But
he comes out with the classic line: “Everything is fine.”
And you feel isolated from his world.
Do you still wonder why men and women don’t
understand each other?
The solution begins when you recognise these
differences between genders. Then learn to
communicate in a more effective way with your partner.
Men, you can step up and adopt a fatherly role when
your wife is having one of her emotional phases.
“Come here, let me give you a hug… everything is
going to be OK.”
Women, you can learn to give your husband more
space, understanding that ever since he was a boy,
he has learnt to deal with things by himself. He views
anything else as weakness.
People’s views on relationships
can be influenced by
undesirable experiences, a
friend’s negative opinion, and
so on. But with good guidance,
anyone is capable of finding
the right person who will
change that negative view.
Carry on the next page to find out
why Chantel and Miguel decided to
invest in each other’s love.
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