There are two things we don’t teach young people about,
and that we do a poor job of teaching adults about. They
are the two things we need most–and also the two things
for which education and the right tools would be a total
game changer.
Ever wonder why we get zero financial education except
maybe an economics class—but nothing that teaches us
how to really excel with money and have a healthy relationship to it? Or why we get so little, if any, sex education,
and if we do, the messages are often so limited, antiquated
or irrelevant that the education doesn’t impact our lives in
meaningful ways?
We absolutely need money to live and thrive. The impact
on people’s lives that financial and abundance education
and tools can have is unlike nearly anything else. Teaching
a person how to get out of their own way around money,
how to see their blind spots, how to overcome the lack
mindset they learned in their families or communities and
how to actually make money is a total life changer. Nothing will uplevel a person’s life more than those tools, if
they hold them right.
Likewise, sex is a fundamental part of people’s lives and
happiness. Relationships are one of the most important
parts of our everyday lives and if we do not know how to
be in them, and how to have empowered, satisfying, gratifying, mutually desired sexual experiences, we will feel
the famine of human love, joy and pleasure. Sexuality is a
core part of who we all are, whether or not we choose to be
sexual with other people. Having access to relevant adult
sex education changes people’s entire outlook on life and
their experience of freedom and wholeness.
Nothing transforms people’s lives more than breaking
through around sex and money. Sex and money are the
most meaningful ways we exchange energy. They help us
to improve our lives, break down our walls, open to more
abundance, enjoy living and loving, and do the things that
make us happy. Sex and money are the bedrock of selfactualization, for without either, we stay in feelings of
lack, wanting more, feeling incomplete, and often, angry,
frustrated and bitter.
I know for myself, my divorce was the best thing that
could have happened to me because it forced me to figure
out how to bring more money and abundance into my life.
After spending my whole adult life making just enough to
get by (and sometimes not even that much), and being in a
relationship with a partner who made much more than I
did and had supported me in living how I wanted to live in
many ways, I was suddenly on my own and I had to figure
it out for myself.
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I thought, “I’m smart, and this isn’t rocket science. I can
figure out this equation around money.” I knew there was
something I was missing, something I didn’t know or was
ignorant about and that I needed to find teachers who
could show me. So I did.
And I totally transformed my relationship to money, my
life, and my business. I completely changed what I believed was possible. I started making more than I’d ever
made and created a business model that worked. Most of
all, I got out of my own way and changed the way I was
thinking about money—that is the most challenging part of
the work, and the most crucial.
I’ve transformed my sexual life more times than I can
count. I’ve been lucky to have incredible sexuality education my whole adult life, and that has allowed me to have
expansive sex and relationships, a powerful connection
to my own body and pleasure, and to be fully sexually
expressed. It has opened the door for me to create unusual,
out-of-the-box, polyamorous relationships, to explore kink
and BDSM and to live and play in the sexual complexity
that is authentically who I am.
If you are not happy with your sexual or financial life,
or you want more in either, ask yourself if you have put
enough energy into changing your patterns and relationship to these two pillars of joy. Ask yourself how much
time, energy, and money you have invested in your financial education, and in your sex education.
Whatever you give energy to grows. I see this principle at
work all the time when women come to my workshops. As
soon as they sign up, things begin to move. They get a job
offer or new clients. The lover they’ve dreamed of shows
up. Opportunities appear. It puts a smile on my face every
time, because I know when things move like that, it is the
energy of life ricocheting back to them the more they are
seeking because they took a risk, made an investment and
stood in a powerful decision.
And that is the recipe for quantum growth. Huge leaps
happen when you take big steps, when you’ve got skin in
the game. Whatever you think is missing—put some skin
in the game so you can begin to change it now. Today.
Not tomorrow. Not next year. Make time for the things
you want most right now. Because they are here for you.
Whether that means seeing a financial advisor, going to a
sex coach or workshop, buying a new book, taking