Faith Filled Family Magazine February 2017 | Page 7

You should never involve your parents into discussions involving only you and your spouse .

In-Laws Should Be Left Out Of Marriage Conflicts

You should never involve your parents into discussions involving only you and your spouse .

BY PAUL AHNERT

One of the greatest challenges newlyweds face is separating marriage from parental oversight . Marriage is a time of adjustment , as two people learn to cohabitate and share life as one unit . Prior to marriage , a parent is often the go to person when feelings are hurt or when life gets tough .

Few things comfort like soothing words of wisdom shared by a parent . Likewise , few things can create tension in a marriage like resentful or distrustful in-laws . A key method for providing a harmonious space for marriage is not complaining to parents about a spouse . Often , married children sound off to parents about a spouse when unhappy or frustrated , giving a false view of an otherwise happy and healthy
marriage .
When a person complains about a spouse , resentment can grow in the heart of a parent toward a son or daughter in-law . It is only natural for parents to side with their child in a marital dispute , regardless of who is in the wrong . Thus , parental resentment may manifest in a strained relationship with a son or daughter in-law . Tension between inlaws often leads to negative behavior and uncomfortable family