living on their own . Adult children should share in household chores , such as laundry , dishes , meals and cleaning . Adult children should set timelines and goals for becoming more independent before they become comfortable living in their parent ’ s home .
Our goal as parents is to raise our children to become contributing members of society . When you step in to take on their responsibilities , you stunt their growth . You set yourself up to be their savior and you try to become the hero in their story . They may even believe they don ’ t need God if they have you
providing all of their provision . It ’ s okay to have seasons of support , but you cannot live as their security in life .
Tip # 2 : Don ’ t Limit Their Need for God
Part of who we have become is because of what we have endured . We cannot keep the struggle from our children if we want them to grow strong in character . It ’ s always hard to watch your own children struggle and that doesn ’ t mean we can never give a helping hand of support and help , as long as it ’ s not placing us in a dependent role . Adulthood requires independence from our parents . Romans 5:3-4 says , “ Not only so , but we also glory in our sufferings , because we know that suffering produces perseverance ; perseverance , character ; and character , hope .” When a parent has gone through many adversities in life they may have the tendency to want to shelter their adult child from experiencing the same . Instead of sheltering , we can help by being a voice of love , prayer and wisdom . Part of discovering God as your strength is feeling weak . It ’ s in our dark times that He becomes our Light . Each person needs to discover who God is and it is in those moments when He is revealed .
Tip # 3 : Who ’ s The Real Hero ?
You cannot live with a superman mentality and make it your responsibility for everything your adult child encounters in life . You are not the fixer of all things . As a parent it is tough to watch life throw a curve ball to your child , but you came through and so will they . Your prayers accomplish more than your pity . You won ’ t always have the answer or the ability to step into their situation , but you can always point them towards God who is concerned about every part . If we are always trying to be the hero then we put God second in command . Remember , before they were your child , they were God ’ s ! He only handpicked you and entrusted them to you to grow them and then confidently surrender them back to Him . Be confident that God loves them more than you do and He wants them to succeed and be blessed .