Faith Filled Family Magazine February 2017 | Page 12

Maybe you are the person having problems with the in laws . There is help for you as well . Respect is a big issue here . Remember this is your family now and your spouse ’ s family . Always show respect . If the in laws give you the silent treatment , which by the way is used in way too many families , practice Romans 12:20 “ But if your enemy is hungry , feed him , and if he is thirsty , give him a drink ; for in so doing you will heap burning coals on his head .” Kindness always works wonders and creates miracles . Don ’ t give up , hang in there and you will see positive changes take place . If sarcasm is the problem , do not respond with the same . If you need to leave , leave . But sarcasm for sarcasm results in damaged families . Respond with kind , genuine words . Ask God
to give you positive feedback to your spouse ’ s family . This may be difficult at first , however the results are worth waiting for .
Perhaps you find yourself in the middle of a mess . Your family does not approve of your choice in a wife or husband . Remember you are called to cling to your spouse and let go of your parent but there are some things you can do . Be patient and give it time . As hard as this seems patience in any relationship , it can work wonders . Do not let your family belittle your spouse . Kindly remind them this is your partner and express your love for them . It will set boundaries . Boundaries established at the beginning of the relationship communicates where each person stands in the relationship .
Positive boundaries set the tone with in the family . How you see your spouse and respond to them will also set the tone . If you respond with love and affection to your spouse hopefully your family will feel the same . If you find yourself in a family where no one speaks or there is too much water under the bridge perhaps your church Pastor or a Christian counselor could help .
Anytime and new family is created , challenges will occur . Meeting those challenges takes time , prayer , patience , communication and love . It may take time but applying the correct method with the proper respect can get you and your family off in the right direction .