How many times in your life have you looked around and wished you had someone else’s life?
You may wonder why they get the best breaks, or long for things to be as easy for you as it seems to be for them. Perhaps you even question your worth, or dismiss the things that used to bring you joy because now you don’t feel like you measure up.
I want to tell you that we all feel that way more than we ever would admit. I remember my grandma reminding us how easy it was to believe that the grass is greener in someone else’s yard each time we followed up a request with “but SusieQ has one”. But I don’t think I understood what she really meant. That is until now.
It seems that more than ever too many of us measure our value or worth by comparing our lives with the lives of those around us. We compare what we have materially, what our relationships are like and what that means about our lifestyle. We judge ourselves when we think someone else is doing it better or feel like we should be more successful than we are.
At a time where the internet and social media puts our lives in the spotlight it’s so easy to feel like everyone else has it together, when you might just be trying to
make it through the day. Behind the screen it’s easy to pretend, judge and comment. It’s also easy to take it all personally and feel inadequate.
A quick glance at my Facebook feed triggers the thought that
I’ll never be enough, never have enough and definitely should be running my life very differently than I do. I mean who can measure up to the perfect kid who says the cleverest things day in and day out. And let’s not even talk about the spouse who not only brings home the bacon but actually knows how to fry it up in the pan. Who REALLY works out AND has a perfect day every day? I know I don’t.
But why would I want to? And more importantly why do I feel that I need to? The reality is that my life is mine, and only I really know what it is that makes me happy and
Your Grass Is Green
And Your Story Matters
More than ever we measure our worth by comparing our lives with the lives of those around us.