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’ d like to share with you how ‘ being no bullshit ’ doesn ’ t mean that you need to be a verbally abusive asshole to your clients ! What ?! People do this ?! Yea , they do . And honestly … I ’ m sick of having to work that much harder to distinguish myself because of these asshats ! And if you ’ re reading this and find that you have consulted someone like this , please don ’ t fucken hire them . Big hint that they are a dick : they tell you how you ’ re doing everything wrong , use yourself against yourself , and then tell you to pay them for it . Run from them !
THE BALANCING ACT OF NOT BEING A DICK Listen . There is a pretty distinct line between being honest and real with your clients ; calling them out on their bullshit , not allowing them to live in lies-
and tearing them down to build them back up . This is downright emotional abuse . I ’ ve lived it . I , sadly , did that shit myself until I was called out on it . You can totally tell someone that they are just living under their bullshit blanket while empowering them to see that there is a way out from under it . Or , you could go the other route and tell them how much of a loser they are for staying under it and when they ’ re ready to stop dicking around , you ’ ll be there . See the difference ?
INTENTIONS DON ’ T MEAN SHIT IF YOU ’ RE MEAN I know there ’ s a difference because I handle my business and clients the first way : by calling them out when they fall into the lies and showing them through empowerment that there is a different way and that they can live in that space . I ’ ve seen firsthand , and experienced a coach do this to me , where in the name of help they are pushing their clients whose heels are dug in so deeply that their legs are buckling . Maybe I ’ m too much of a softie , but how the hell does one sleep at night knowing that they pushed their client too hard , too fast , right off the edge of a cliff ? Like honestly ? If you ’ re in the business of empowering other people , then that ’ s what you should fucking be doing ; not pushing them out of a tree with no instructions on flight or whether or not they even have wings !
Here ’ s the deal : you can totally make money on being * that * kind of coach to people . But you can also make money being the kind of coach who actually gives a fuck about their clients . It
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