Autistic Spectrum Digest (Autism) Issue 22, September 2015 - Page 25

Chambers Dictionary defines “happy” as: 1. Lucky 2. Fortunate 3. Expressing, full of, or characterised by, contentment, wellbeing, pleasure, or good. 4. Apt 5. Felicitous 6. Carefree 7. Confident 8. Mildly drunk Definitions 1-3, and 7 are just other emotions (4, 5 & 8 aren’t relevant in this context), so only number 6, I think, comes close to a true explanation; but Chambers goes on to define “carefree” as a “lack of anxiety, worry, or responsibility”, which just brings us back to the absence of negative emotions we already talked about. I could say happiness is when I smile – when I smile a huge genuine smile – the kind another friend of mine describes as my “mountain smile” (the one on my face when I’m on top of a large hill – see right). I can certainly remember how I was feeling when I took that photo, but if you asked me, “But what makes you smile?”, or, if you couldn’t see the picture (or recognise the facial expression as happiness) and asked me what caused the primary feeling…? I wouldn’t know. So Jo made me aware that those of us who can supposedly identify and describe our emotions, still over-rely on cross-referencing them with other emotions, merely describing each feeling in terms of other feelings. This means there is no person-to-person datum for happiness – no baseline to which other people can refer. Negative emotions, however, cause obvious physical responses, and are thus easier to explain: everyone knows what an adrenaline rush feels like, or when your heart misses a beat, or when your legs feel like jelly… so why can’t I describe happiness in this way? The very closest I can get is to say “my heart feels larger”; but don’t our hearts “swell with with pride” and “fill with love”? So perhaps this explanation only describes a generic positiveemotion… it doesn’t nail down happiness at all. 25