The Lovers card speaks of chances, choices and conflicts in our personal and intimate relationships. It is a card that reminds us the love is the most powerful force in the universe. Sigmund Freud said the two things that make people happy are work and love. The Lovers tells us that no one knows for certain what inexplicable combination of circumstances and subtleties of our emotions and experiences that create the attraction, attachment and connection between two souls. It also tells us that we have the potential in our lives to meet more than one person who we could connect and build a good life with. We are reminded to stop seeking “The One” and the notion that only one person in this whole world can make us feel whole and complete. Our sense of wholeness or completeness is our own responsibility; no one can give or take this from us. No one is responsible for how we may feel, we are fully and completely responsible for our own feelings and actions. If you find yourself saying to someone “You make me feel like…” stop yourself and change it to “When this or that happens, I feel like …..” The Lovers card is also a warning not to surrender your personal power in a relationship and to remember what it is we deserve to have from our relationship. Most women and many men too, are very quick to surrender everything to their significant other. We will leap in to fix their problems and pay their bills. We will court with gifts, baking, cards and all manner of lovely and thoughtful gestures. We will go over the top especially if the sex is particularly awesome – great sex can be toxic and we may very well try to overwhelm our partner with lust which will lead them to push us away.