Another client, a woman, was born
after the death of her older brother
from SIDS (Sudden Infant Death
Syndrome), which is horrifically
too common after scheduled
vaccinations. What showed up
is the unresolved parental grief,
which stopped the flow of love
and joy to the younger sister/
client receiving the constellation
some thirty-five years later. She
always felt she didn’t matter. This
was a result of fear and unfinished
grief of the first child who died. I
had the client merely state to her
parents “I matter” and torrential
tears flowed as this simple soul
truth, which has been consciously
repressed, was now expressed for
healing to occur at her deepest
level. She’s been waiting to live and
have a fulfilled life on two levels:
to honor the unresolved grief and
another to hold a blank space for
her brother’s memory. Double duty
for a newborn of thirty-five! She
matters and her life does too, now
the grief is healed in the past for
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the present and her bright future
with the dark foreboding ancestral
cloud gone. Who would think I
matter, I’m alive, and see me, was
where her field would guide me for
her highest good! No more hiding
or trying to be number one when
she is number two in her birth
order. She may be the first living
child to her parents, but number
two as her older brother who died
has first place and his fate was to
leave too soon. Love, order, and
peace at the deepest soul levels
were restored, lying in wait for
thirty-five plus years.
We had another powerful case
that was resolved that involved
the heavy quiet, aspect of
multigenerational sexual abuse
of women. It’s really about
disempowerment and voice. Many
aspects of incest aren’t dealt with
in many therapies as the blame
game seems to justify the client
but does it truly release them? I
often find there is a loyalty to the
suffering and a multigenerational
repetition and denial, or the
duplicity of mothers and fathers
sharing the blame. As always,
the child pays the price with
its body as did the mother and
father in their childhoods. Always
remember, every perpetrator was
a victim first. When we help one
woman, we help all women see
how a mother lacking protection
or turning a blind eye created
the very abuse the grandparents
did to them as is repeated ad
nauseum to the next generation.
This process liberates the quiet
suffering of all who came before
living and dead as we are a
microcosm or the macrocosm. It’s
almost like we are living fossils
of everything that came before.
Silent suffering of victimized )