The Record Jobs Section 04-23-17

Place an ad Phone: 1-888-460-5322 Email: jobs@northjersey.com SUNDAY, APRIL 23, 2017 • SECTION J B CAREER COACH What does a good attitude look like? Try this. By ELI AMDUR SPECIAL TO NORTH JERSEY JOBS T his is a follow-up to last week’s article: “What’s the differ- ence between diffi- cult and impossible?” Cutting to the chase, the answer is “attitude,” that all-important but intangible quality that enables us to decide to do the difficult things immediate- ly and the impossible things in just a little more time. Not being the first time in nearly 14 years here that I’ve discussed attitude – I’ve long lost count – I know for sure I’ll get some responses asking what a good atti- tude looks like, sadly with a defeated tone that indicates resignation. For the most part, if you have to ask about attitude, you probably have an attitude problem. It’s like the classic scenario of an employee asking his boss, “You want creative thinking around here? OK, what are the guidelines?” Yet, pressing on with the faith that answering the question about attitude might indeed help us to develop a good one, here are a few tried-and-true practices. People with positive attitudes do these ten things – every day. Affirmation. Start each day by saying, “Today I will…” and then list at least one thing that you will – not might, not hope to, not want to – but will accomplish (more than one is better, but starting with one is just fine). Writing it down, by the way, strengthens the effort. But be careful: it should be something that counts, not just item number four on your to-do list, like paying the phone bill. Confirmation. End each day by saying, “Today, I did…” and then tell yourself exactly that. We all like positive reinforce- ment, this is our daily chance for it, and there’s nothing wrong with you being the one to congratulate yourself. Just be honest. Stop: With just these two, you’ll be way ahead. Now, please continue. Optimism. Winston Churchill said, “The pessimist sees the difficulty in every oppor- tunity; the optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” One of my senior fraterni- ty brothers said of me when I was a fresh- man (53 years ago) that if I’d come down- stairs on Christmas morning and find my Christmas stocking filled with horse manure, I’d ask, “Where’s the pony?” There’s no defensible reason for pessimism. Acceptance. Accept who you are: imper- fect. You have flaws and weaknesses, and are mistake prone. Big deal. Work on it. Goals. Unless you’re planning a “veg day” (which we all need occasionally), only a day with goals can be considered suc- cessful because there’s something you’ve reached. Not every goal can or should be big (most aren’t), but set goals – and then repeat numbers one and two (above). Fascination, awe, inspiration, and won- der. If you let yourself be fascinated, you will be fascinating; awed, you’ll be awesome; inspired, you’ll be inspiring; and filled with wonder, you’ll become wonderful. Go ahead; try it. “We are perishing,” said G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936), “not for lack of wonders, but for lack of wonder.” Take nothing for granted. Appreciate the world around you. Newness. Albert Einstein used to say, “The most beautiful experience is to gaze at a mystery.” And in Self-Renewal: The Individual and the Innovative Society, John W. Gardner (1912-2002) wrote, “Life is not a train ride where you choose your desti- nation, pay your fare and settle back for a nap. It’s a cycle ride over uncertain terrain, with you in the driver’s seat, constantly correcting your balance and determining the direction of progress. It’s difficult, some- times profoundly painful. But it’s better than napping through life.” So learn some-thing new every day. Experiment. Read some- thing you don’t understand – and then figure it out. This is not only constructive; it’s fun. Good. While you’re busy doing well, do something good for someone else – with- out the expectation of a return. Here’s John Wooden: “You cannot live a perfect day un- less you do something for someone who can never repay you.” You can easily do this every day. You just have to decide that you will. Matter. If happiness is your end goal, you’ll fall short of the important stuff. Happiness should be a reward, not a goal. And it should be the reward for being meaningful. Gratitude. While you’re doing all of the above, don’t just be grateful for things or people or experiences. Practice gratitude. People practice yoga, practice religions, and practice excellence. We should also practice gratitude – every day. It’s really so very easy. There you have it: what a good attitude looks like. Just do these things — every day. Piece of cake! Career Coach Eli Amdur can be reached at eli.amdur@amdurcoaching .com. 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