She Magazine NOVEMBER 2015 | Page 69

through the generations WHILE ELIZABETH HANCE HAS HAD MANY INSPIRATIONS IN LIFE, NONE CAN COMPARE TO THE EXTRAORDINARY WOMEN IN HER FAMILY, PARTICULARLY HER GRANDMOTHER AND HER MOTHER. EACH HAS INFLUENCED THE WOMAN SHE IS TODAY. O One of the strongest bonds Elizabeth has is shared with the mountains, and we always spent every holiday togeth- importance of getting a solid education so that she will be her 102-year-old grandmother, Bernice “Be” Blackwell. “Her er.” One thing Elizabeth loves about Be is that she was never able to be a strong, vibrant, confident person.” health is strong and her mind is amazing. I love to listen to afraid to have a little fun. One weekend just after Elizabeth Faith and compassion run rampant in the four generations all of the stories she remembers as a child growing up during had turned 15, her parents were out of town and she was of women, but there’s one trait that has only been passed the horse-and-buggy times to living through the Great De- staying with Be. “My parents said I couldn’t drive unless I had to Elizabeth and Hannah...being vocal about feelings. “My pression to seeing all the amazing things that are happening her with me, so I took Be cruising… from Sonic to Hardee’s. mother said it skipped her because she  is a very passive today.” Be has been an inspiration to her  family, spending I think we put about 1200 miles on my car that weekend!” person and wants to make peace with everyone. Be, on the many years sharing her compassion with others. “She vol- Elizabeth was a tomboy growing up, but these days she’s unteered at Epworth Children’s Home as a housemother trying to make up for missed opportunities. “I loved being for boys for two years. She volunteered at Morrell Nursing outdoors and playing outside. As I am getting older, though , Home, helping residents with arts and crafts, and at Byerly I’m trying to cook more like Mom and Be. Both are both Hospital. She has also knitted hundreds of baby caps for the fantastic cooks! Two of my favorite things Be used to make newborns at Byerly and Carolina Pines as late as this past were red velvet cake and chocolate pie. She never used an summer. Be is extremely talented at sewing, too, and I have actual recipe for the pie, she just added things until she treasured keepsakes she’s given me through the years. I thought it was enough. My mother has that trait also. My remember getting things made by her with a label on it that favorite things she cooks are her German chocolate cake, said, ‘Made especially for you by BeBe.’ I cherish the Christ- chicken salad, and sauce for her barbecued chicken. I, on the mas stockings she has made for me and my family with our other hand, must follow a recipe to a T!” names on them.” In addition to the stockings, Be has also Out of all of the lessons Elizabeth has learned over the years from Be and Molly, faith in God is the greatest. “My grandmother’s faith has been very strong all of my life.  She has taught my mother, my daughter and me how to be strong during very difficult times.  She has taught us how knowing God and having a relationship with Him is so important. I have been a member of St. Luke United Methodist Church, where Be and my mother are charter members, since my early teens and have raised my children in this church. I try to teach Hannah just as Be and my mother taught me: Put God first, then family, and then work.” made dresses, sweaters, scarves and blankets for Elizabeth. The holiday season is a special time for memories and  Molly Williams, Elizabeth’s mother, has played a crucial role traditions. “We used to rotate Thanksgiving and Christ- in being caretaker of the family. She is very active in church, mas dinners at each other’s houses; but, over the past takes care of Be, and helps Elizabeth raise her children. While several years, we have spent the holidays at my mother’s Elizabeth was a Daddy’s Girl growing up (who occasionally house.” Amongst the beautiful fall décor at Molly’s is a wide didn’t agree with Mom), she has grown to appreciate Molly variety delicious foods, including family recipes. The most for all she has done. “My mother is one of my best friends. infamous, of course, being Be’s chocolate pie. At Christmas, I am very blessed to live in Hartsville where I visit and spend the family always has a Fraser fir Christmas tree, and they always there for you. They may not always like things I have time with her and Be almost every day.” Some of Elizabeth’s attend church together on Christmas Eve. With two mas- done or will do, or agree on the same issues, but they will most cherished memories spent with Molly are during their ter cooks in the family, yummy food is always guaranteed. always be there for me when I need them and their support. family vacations each summer to Topsail, North Carolina. “Be and my mother begin baking shortly after Thanksgiving!” I know they will do anything for me and they will always love No matter where they are, however, Elizabeth is blessed to be in the company of such an amazing woman. “Just spending time with her is so precious.” other hand, is very opinionated.” Molly and Be are tremendous role models for the family, especially for Elizabeth’s daughter Hannah. Hannah has a wonderful relationship with all three Elizabeth recalls her growing up years under the influence women. “Be has influenced Hannah by being strong and in- of Be and Molly as a wonderful experience. “We always did dependent. My mother has influenced her to be loving and things together. If one of us went shopping, we all went to want to do things for others. I show Hannah I love her no shopping. We spent a lot of precious time together. Be had matter what and make sure that I am there supporting her eight siblings, so we would often go to family reunions in on every level.  I also show her, like my mother did to me, the SHEMAGAZINE.COM More than anything, Elizabeth has learned the true meaning of family. “From these two extraordinary women, I have learned that there is nothing as special as spending time with those you love. You may not have the opportunity to see family every day; but, when you do, make the most of the time you have with them. Family is loving, supportive, and me for who I am. I am blessed!” Elizabeth Hance resides in Hartsville, South Carolina, with her husband Darel and their three children, Chapman and Hannah Fountain and Ryan Hance. For 21 years, Elizabeth has taught second grade at Carolina Elementary School. Molly Williams resides in Hartsville with her husband Lloyd. In addition to Elizabeth, Molly is the proud mother of one son, Butch. Bernice “Be” Blackwell, originally from McBee, South Carolina, now resides with her family in Hartsville. NOVEMBER 2015 69