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Self-love chat
Self Care for all
How to heal once you
have been betrayed
by Jade Rehder
22 winter 2017 PSG
Photo credit: Almaje
fter betrayal happens to you, it can seem unrealistic to truly believe that you are a worthy, powerful, knowledgeable, loving person. But you are! And you can tap into this truth, in turn activating your inner ability to heal.
However, for a parent who is buffering her/his kid(s) from a toxic situation, even thinking about healing might feel self-indulgent. I would like to assure you that it is not. First and foremost, you always deserve to feel like the amazing being that you are. And secondly, your kid(s) will directly benefit from your healing: you will be the best parent you can be, and they will witness self-respect shining from the inside out; they will see you model perseverance in the face of adverse conditions, ugly experiences, and pain from betrayal.
Healing of this type of wounding happens from the inside out so it will require strong and patient self-care. Several tested, effective exercises are below; consider trying them over a period of time with the aim of settling on three favorites that you could see incorporating into your daily life.
Look yourself in the eyes in the mirror and repeat 11 times, “I love you, [say your first name]”. Looking into your own eyes and using your first name are important for making a deeply effective connection with your body/mind. It is your body/mind that supports your natural intuition and conveys your instinctual inner guidance, so when trust is broken through betrayal it is the connection with your body/mind that is severed. This exercise restores this vital connection, allowing you to move into your inner power, self-trust and self-love.